How to Raise a Reader: 5 Tips for Parents

When my son Jack was in preschool, he read Charlotte’s Web aloud fluently to his classmates. When he was in kindergarten, he began disappearing into his room for a few hours every afternoon to read. My son is known for being a reader — for having his nose in a book. He is a kid who devours books.

Friends see my son, and they ask me from time to time how I did it. How did I raise a reader?

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My friends have expressed a variety of concerns about their kids’ reading habits. “My kid is not interested in reading. He only wants to play Minecraft.” “My kid only reads X, when I know she is capable of reading Y.” “My kid is lazy. He only wants me to read books aloud to him.”

I am hesitant to give my friends advice largely because I think my son sets the bar too high. Reading is his thing. I do not know why some kids are passionate about reading while others are passionate about playing hockey or building with legos or following ants around the backyard. I do not think there is anything I did or anything my friends could do to ensure that reading would become their kid’s favorite hobby. I have two more kids coming down the pipeline, and I do not expect reading to be their favorite hobby. Instead, I look forward to seeing what they become passionate about.

While it seems unrealistic to suggest that you can raise a child whose number one passion is reading, I do believe that every child can be a reader.

how to raise a reader: 5 tips for parentsThe first step in raising a reader is to expand your view of what a reader looks like. While you may have enjoyed reading Newbery award winning books as a child, your child may not. Making your child read a Newbery award winning book could discourage rather than encourage your child to read. Some readers love comics and graphic novels. Other readers enjoy fantasy series. Still other readers pour over issues of Dog Fancy magazine. Being open to the type of reader your child could become is an important first step in supporting and encouraging your child’s reading.

As a parent and future children’s librarian, I am very interested in what parents can do to help motivate children to read. The following suggestions are based on research as well as my experience working with kids.

1.  Make sure kids have access to books they truly enjoy. 

This is my number one suggestion. Unless you are an exceptional parent who is already taking regular trips to the public library and supporting your kids’ reading choices, focus your efforts here.

This tip sounds so basic. Yet, it can be difficult to implement in practice. It can be difficult to find time to make it to the public library. It can be difficult to support your kids’ reading choices when your kids choose books that make you cringe.

For most families, the best way to ensure that your kid has access to books is to visit the public library. If you haven’t been to the public library recently, take a trip this week. When you visit the library, make a beeline for the children’s section. Introduce your child to a children’s librarian, and ask the children’s librarian if they can help you find a book or series of books your child will enjoy.

Your child might be interested in one of these popular series…

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anything by Kevin Henkes
Fly Guy by Tedd Arnold
Elephant & Piggie by Mo Willems
Judy Moody by Megan McDonald and Peter Reynolds
Scaredy Squirrel by Melanie Watt
Magic Tree House by Mary Pope Osborne
Ruby Lu by Lenore Look
Ivy & Bean by Annie Barrows
National Geographic Kids Almanacs
Babymouse by Jennifer Holms
Origami Yoda by Tom Angleberger
Diary of a Wimpy Kid by Jeff Kinney

Next, the books kids truly enjoy component.

In the past, I have found it surprisingly difficult to support my kids’ reading choices. Biases against certain subjects (e.g. dinosaurs) and genres (e.g. fantasy) have cropped up that I did not realize existed until my kids expressed an interest in checking these books out.

I have worked hard to overcome my biases because research shows that kids read more when they choose which books they read.

Here is the four step program I have used to support my kids’ reading choices. I began with step one and slowly, over the past few years, have progressed to step four.

Step 1. Let my children check out the books they want to check out — even if the books involve dinosaurs or dragons.

Step 2. Resist the urge to roll my eyes when my kids pick out cringe-worthy books.

Step 3. Enthusiastically congratulate my kids for finding books that they are excited to read at the library.

Step 4. Notice when the most recent book in my kids’ favorite series is published, and check the book out for them.

2.  Do not bribe your kid to read. No pizza. No toys. No extra TV time.

Research shows that when kids are given external rewards, their internal motivation to read declines. Apparently, in kids’ minds, if an adult is bribing them to read, reading must not be an activity worth doing for its own sake.

In the short term, bribery works. However, if you bribe your kids to read, their interest in reading is likely to decline after the bribes have dried up. To become a competent reader, kids need hours of practice reading. Kids are unlikely to practice reading for the hours necessary to become competent readers unless they enjoy reading.

Note: Bribing kids to read may not be entirely bad if kids are rewarded with books or if the bribery is an instrumental part of a program that successfully creates a culture of reading in a school or community.

3.  Create spaces where kids have books available and nothing else to do.

book boxPsst… Do not tell my kids, but I do this a lot. I’m pretty sneaky. I bring books with us to hair appointments, doctors’ visits, piano lessons…anywhere the kids might be stuck without anything to do. I keep a box of books in the car that the kids can read when we are zipping from one place to the next. (The kids are not allowed to play video games or watch movies in the car unless we are driving for more than two hours.)

In addition, we try to set aside time each night to read and relax before bed. There are nights when bedtime reading doesn’t happen, but most nights it does.

Warning! Do not suggest that your child read. Suggesting that your child read could backfire. Simply let your child know that books are available.

4.  Help kids find books about subjects they genuinely want to learn about.

Show kids that books are sources of useful information. If your kid has a new pet or a favorite hobby, check out a good book about the topic. If your kid wants to learn to cook or fold paper airplanes or draw cartoons, show your kid that you can find great information on these topics in books. If your kid is about to take their first airplane ride or visit a friend in the hospital, check out books on these topics.

5.  Avoid labeling kids as bad readers. Instead, help kids think of themselves as competent readers.

Research has found that when kids begin thinking of themselves as bad readers, their interest in reading declines. They stop putting forth the effort needed to read challenging texts. When reading, they give up faster than do kids who think of themselves as good readers.

You can help your child think of themselves as a competent reader by banning terms like “struggling reader” and “reluctant reader” from your vocabulary.

In addition, to help your child feel like a competent reader:

  • Make sure your child has books available to them that are easy for them to read. It is also fine to let your child read challenging books. But, make sure that your child sees that there are lots of great books available that they can read well.
  • Avoid comparing siblings’ reading abilities or friends’ reading abilities.
  • Invite your child to read to a younger child. Focus on the reading skills your child has acquired. E.g. “Wow! You used to not be able to read ______, and now you can!”

I would love to hear about your experience encouraging your child to read:

  • How do you fit it trips to the library?
  • What makes it difficult or intimidating to go to the library?
  • What is your biggest challenge as you try to raise a reader?

Please, share in the comments below!

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18 Responses to How to Raise a Reader: 5 Tips for Parents

  1. Melody Giesbrecht says:

    My thoughts on raising a reader is being a reader myself. Theres no point in encouraging a child if there is zero enthusiasm for reading in the parents lives. I was extremely blessed in this regard – my Mum, my grandmother, all my aunts and myself are huge readers. As a child I witnessed my Mum always with a book. She prioritised not only reading to me & brother but also took time to read her own books at set boundaries with us to give her this quiet time alone. Invariably, if we saw her drinking a cup of tea and reading a adult book or a medical textbook (she was doing her nursing masters) we in turn would make ourselves a tea/hot chocolate and read our own books or our childrens anatomy/biology books. May I also point out my Mum was a single mother struggling financially in a very poor neighborhood and yes we had biweekly public library visits. At family gatherings we read. At birthdays and Christmas we gave books to each other. When I was 10 she read us the Hobbit, and when I was 13 I finished read the complete Lord of the Rings. We got into paperbacks and I read all the babysitters, goosebumps, animorphs, ponypal books and soon after was reading classical literature and Shakespeare for fun. I can’t help get frustrated at people at people who say “I don’t have time, energy, resources to read” I spent my entire life witnessing a single, broke, vulnerable but intelligent woman raise 2 children (with zero child support and a useless ex husband) MAKE time to read. What made me a reader was the joy and love for reading and learning that my mother exuded. Don’t tell me you can’t make time – She made the time!!

  2. Rachael says:

    My DD loves to ask a lot of questions on each page of our stories so we take turns reading and talking. I will often tell her to wait until i finish the words on the page and then she can have a turn and say something about the page, or I will pause with my finger under a word to see if she can read it. With repetition comes memorization and eventually being able to recognize these words on her own. I like to emphasize the sight words now so that shes ready for the next level. She is 4 now so I am thinking of getting her own library card now and see if she is excited to pick out and borrow books with me. Thanks for sharing these tips :)

  3. Aisha says:

    Hi there! Thanks so much for this blog. I am really excited to learn more! I also have 3 kids. 4, 2 and 5 months. My boys usually pick out Thomas the train books which are great for me to read to them, but not for my 4 year old who is learning to read on his own. He just turned 4 and has expressed so much more interest. He reads the stop sign and attempts to sound out anything he can. So, how can I find beginning reading books that he is also interested in? Any ideas?

  4. Susan says:

    Great post! I used to take my son to the library every Tuesday for a baby-geared story time called “lapsit.” The children’s librarian would lead us in songs with motions, then read a couple of picture books aloud, then give parents time to read to their children from board books in bins around the room, and then they would blow bubbles at the end. I’ve been reading to my son almost since birth, but going to the library exposes him to a lot more books than we have at home (and we have a lot of books). He’s nearly three now, and since my daughter was born ten months ago, our library visits have sharply declined. Sometimes it’s just too hard to work around the baby’s naps. So now when we go, we attend story time for older toddlers, and I let him check out many more books than we used to since we may not be back for a couple of weeks.

    • Amy says:

      It is a lot trickier to make it to the library with two kids than one! My trips to the library have changed form too as child #2 and child #3 were added to the mix. With child #3, we no longer attend library story times. It’s easier for us to visit the library when the library is less busy. We also make good use of the hold shelf.

  5. Reblogged this on Sylvester Library and commented:
    This is a great article for parents who want to “raise readers.”

  6. Pinkdaisyjane says:

    I love this post! We do a lot of the things you’ve suggested already, but I’m excited to make a few small changes that you have inspired {e.g. no screens in the car unless its a 2 hour + trip}.

    We work a trip to the library every Monday afternoon. We are blessed with a local library that not only has a great children’s library with well-read librarians, but also participates in an inter-library loan system that enables us to borrow books from over 40 communities.

    At first, even though my Littles have been surrounded by books since birth, it was hard to get them to pick out books, but introducing my son to age-appropriate graphic novels {toon books}, and helping him find a series he likes has really helped us.

    Thanks for the great post!

  7. Heather says:

    Wonderful post! Would it be okay if I linked this on my blog? Some of the points you have made I have written about in the past on my blog, but I think it’s important for parents and teachers to hear these points so hearing it from different voices is fantastic.
    The biggest thing for me as a teacher was finding out what my students are interested in (dinosaurs, comics, fairies, spiders…) and finding as many books as I could on that topic or format to be in the classroom. Especially the year I had an a whole class of low-literacy achievers (intentionally formed to improve their literacy skills). I had about 25 reluctant readers but you find books on topics they love, at a level right for them – they lap it up and their confidence grew and they just lit up! It was wonderful.

  8. Jenny says:

    What great advice! I always cringe when I volunteer at our schools book fair and a child asks to see a book like a graphic novel and the parent tries to push them into something else.

  9. Cecilia says:

    I really love your post and your ideas here, especially what you say in the very beginning about children and passion. My son is 9 and while he loves reading (and this didn’t happen completely naturally), I have recently come to terms with the fact that he will never love reading the way I loved it when I was his age. It’s exactly as you said. His #1 passions are elsewhere. I was an introverted child and he is extroverted. He loves being outdoors, socializing, and doing things with his hands – Legos, arts and crafts, etc. Reading might be #7 on his top 10 list of favorite things to do but that’s still okay.

    I agree with all the points you listed. I haven’t liked all the things he’s read but I have learned to not criticize. Imagine if someone kept judging the books I choose to read! I’d hate it. So I have learned to let my son choose while at the same time recommending books to him to try out. He has a hand-me-down Kindle and I will buy him books occasionally. It’s also my Christmas tradition to get him a few literature-quality books. He’ll groan a little but I always read these out loud to him, and before long he is so into them that he’ll take them to school to read them on his own.

    One other thing I’ve learned is to not drill my child on what he’s read. I made this mistake once and it resulted in turning him off of reading for a good half year. Again, I turn the table around and ask myself if I would like to be interrogated on my reading comprehension. So I’ll talk to my son about what he’s read now, but not act as though I am testing him.

    We try to head to the library once a week (weekends) and always try to participate in the library’s reading programs like summer reading goals, etc. But just the simple/fun ones, and without pressure. I also like talking to my son about my books and book blogging activities, and he actually enjoys hearing about them!

  10. Carol says:

    Love all of your tips! My 13 year old and I have been reading a chapter each night of a book that she wouldn’t choose to read on her own, but she is enjoying listening to and gives us all kinds of issues to talk about. Just wanted to say that reading out loud to your kids doesn’t seem to get old.

    • Amy says:

      Yes! Thank you for mentioning this! Hearing books read aloud is so valuable — even for kids who are capable of reading to themselves. Kids have the chance to see you enjoying the book, ask questions and discuss the story. If a kid would rather be read aloud to than read books themselves, I would, as a parent, enthusiastically go for it.

  11. Renee says:

    I’m always listening for cues on what is “the interest of the moment” and RUN with it!! I search for books related to that topic and check out lots of books. In addition to taking frequent trips to the library with the kids, I also utilize my libraries reserve book feature. I especially found this helpful when the kids were smaller and “having the time to find the books” in the shelves or bins was not as easy.
    At home we have books tucked in reading nooks all around our house. Reading before bed is a daily ritual– my 3rd grader who is a prolific reader still likes us to read to him nightly. I will be sad when that ritual comes to a close.
    Thanks for sharing your tips!!

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